Reliving experiences

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Each experience in our lives has a feeling attached to it. Sometimes those feelings are so strong that we carry them with us like baggage. The downside is when we subconsciously attach an old feeling to a new experience – that means we are not living in the present.

Because our feelings are triggers to our past experiences, we can focus on a feeling long enough to experience the changes in our bodies and allow our minds to be transported to a past event. This is actually a great exercise to do to help you remember something. If you go deep enough you may even be able to heal a past hurt.

From this moment forward, be conscious of your current feelings and strive to feel good. If you find yourself not feeling good, know that you have the power to change that immediately. The reality is your feelings will subside eventually – why not make it happen sooner than later. Holding on to heavy feelings only makes a more lasting impression. The negative feelings wind up becoming something to be counseled on later. Let it go now and be free from excess baggage.

On the other hand, good feelings can lead to good memories. That’s what daydreams are made of.

Here is today’s “Kinyofu’s Thought of The Day“:

You can relive an experience simply by recalling a feeling. Be sure to create many good feelings.

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Need to be right

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When two people are in conversation, it really shouldn’t be about right or wrong. If it is, the conversation can go very very wrong. Just ask one (or two, or three) of my third graders who are always in a verbal battle with someone. In this battle, he/she is totally missing out on the point of communication. Instead of creating an exchange, he/she is creating stress, ego, disconnectedness, distractions, and unfavorable attention.

He/she doesn’t yet understand that it is not always all about him/her. There is always the last word, a pouty face, or another complaint.

It’s interesting seeing third graders acting out like adults; and adults acting out like third graders. Listening goes a long way. If you are talking, complaining, arguing, or pouting, you are not listening. If you are not listening, you are not hearing. If you are not hearing, you are basically deaf.

You can join the world of the hearing, just by learning that it’s not about being right or wrong.

Here is today’s “Kinyofu’s Thought of The Day“:

Your need to be right (as shown by your argumentative side) doesn’t look good on you and blocks you from learning new ways of thinking. Just for today, step down and listen.

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Who is or is not watching

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It seems we human beings beg for attention. Either it is attention for a job well done, or attention for a job not well done. On one hand, we get praise; on the other, we get sympathy. Both cases fulfill a deep subconscious need. Which category do you fall into?

Have you ever (I’m sure you have) seen a small child fall? The first thing they do is to look up to see who is looking at them. The second thing they do is wait for that person’s reaction. The child will then proceed to act based on the reaction of those around him/her.

The adults in child #1′s life do not flinch or shout or cry out. They encourage the child to get up and carry on. The child does. The adults in child #2′s life jumps up excitedly as if the child broke a body part. The child then decides to cry … and cry … and cry.

Now tell me, don’t you know some adults like this? They seem to crave sympathy, and no matter how much you console and uplift and come to their rescue, they continue in their same patterns.

Could that adult be you? At least at times? Hmmmmmmm.

I support positive praise. It is a good thing. Each one of us should get that every day. In fact, we should even give it to our selves. The ability to give and receive positive praise from ourselves makes us stronger from the inside out.

Watch your average 3 year old. They want so much for you to notice them do something. When you do, you can see them glow with joy and pride. Now replace 3 year old with any age you choose. The same thing stands.

Keep in mind all of us thrive on attention – literally. The ill person will do much better when someone consistently gives them positive attention, than the person who is left alone.

Dependence on positive praise, however, is not healthy. If you need someone to praise you before you do a thing, that thing might not get done if that someone is not praising you. Praise yourself. Be confident. Know that you are doing what you choose to do because it makes you feel fulfilled and happy.

Ask yourself these questions:

  • What kind of attention do I crave?
  • What will I do to get it?

Bottom line – accept praise. But first, know your self, praise your self and value your self.

Here is today’s “Kinyofu’s Thought of The Day“:

Motivation that is determined by who is or is not watching you is a huge stop in your life. If your ideal scenario is not present, you will fail to act. No one should have that much power over you.

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Honor your vessel

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Your body talks. It tells you what is working and what is not working and it expects that you are listening.

Are you listening?

Many people suffer from gas. That’s your body telling you that something you ate does not agree with you, therefore don’t eat it.

Others suffer from skin allergies. Again, probably something you are eating, maybe something you are putting on your skin. Take note.

Perhaps you find it difficult to bend down, or maybe your joints hurt. That’s your body telling you that you could benefit from some exercise, maybe weight loss and probably some vitamin rich food, or if all else fails, some vitamins.

Do you get headaches? What is going on in your life that you are fighting with? Your brain can’t take it. Give it a break.

There are other signals. If you ignore them, they turn into disease. Then you wind up under the doctor’s spell and caught in the medical maze of side effect city.

Do yourself a favor and pay attention to your body.

Here is today’s “Kinyofu’s Thought of The Day“:

Your body gives you clues through internal and external means. Honor your vessel by paying attention and following through with heathly living.

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Dwelling on the past

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It’s been a cold couple of days and I miss my favorite gloves that I got from my favorite store. You see, they kept my hands especially warm, and now they are gone.

One day last week, I had a non-conscious-not-present moment and dropped them. I did not realize this until I needed them.

In the meantime, while I am using my second best gloves, I am lamenting on what I am missing and wish that I could turn the clock back and avoid my great loss.

Reality pushes me to release those thoughts, shake the victim image and enjoy the gloves I do have. After all – I do have gloves, and a hat, and a scarf, and a coat, and warm clothes and a warm home to return to.

All is really good in my world.

Here is today’s “Kinyofu’s Thought of The Day“:

You can’t turn back time. You can, however choose to be at peace with now because dwelling on the past is not going to bring it back.

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Your normal pattern

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Some years ago, after hearing that the definition of insanity is ‘doing the same thing over and over again and expecting something different’, I decided to take a closer look at how I did things so as to not to look insane. I had gotten into habits – both conscious and subconscious. The conscious ones were hard to break because I was so used to doing them and the subconscious ones I didn’t even know about. Either way patterns were created.

The other day I noticed that I was doing something different in my life only because I questioned the feelings I was having. Any other time, I would have just had the feeling and acted from it. This time, I asked myself why was I feeling that way and what was different.

It was then that I realized I had broken a pattern and fell right into an epiphany. Apparently not doing the same thing over and over again has more rewards than sanity.

Here is today’s “Kinyofu’s Thought of The Day“:

Your thoughts and feelings will confront you if you break your normal pattern. If you pay attention, you will be able to identify your deep seated motives and desires.

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Wrong turn

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Have you ever actually made a wrong turn when traveling, only to observe something amazing, insightful or memorable? Perhaps what you saw was not meaningful until later on.

Either way the path you wound up on turned out not to be a wrong turn because something came out it.

Life happens the same way. You take a retrospective observation of your experiences and think that you shouldn’t have done that. The reality is you did and you learned something from it. The trick, of course, is to not do it again where you would get the same basic results.

Every step you take is a necessary step. Every turn you make is going to get you where you need to be. Accept that and move on.

Here is today’s “Kinyofu’s Thought of The Day“:

Your wrong turn is actually the right turn. Allow for time to tell you how this is so. In the meantime, stay focused, positive and patient.

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Live right

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If you really sit down and think about life, you will get that you are born and then you die. What happens in between either gets written about or forgotten about. How cool would it be to have your family acknowledge you for doing something long after you leave your body. Now think about your country, or even the world.

If you believe you are doing something right in the world, really, wouldn’t it be nice to have others believe the same thing? Just a thought.

Also, if you are doing something right in the world, you might want to take care of your body so that you can continue to do what you do. What is for sure is that your body will not be the same forever, but will be good to you if you take care of it.

Here is today’s “Kinyofu’s Thought of The Day“:

Remember you are living on borrowed time, in a temporary body. Live right today and leave a worthwhile legacy so it will all be worth it.

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Stop waiting

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There is always going to be something you think you need to make whatever it is you are working on just right. Waiting for that thing puts you in stall mode, or in a space of dissatisfaction.

Perhaps my subconscious is working overtime. I wrote this message knowing this is something I do, but the funny thing is that this is exactly where I was today without even seeing it.

I am embarking upon this huge project to update my apartment. I had an idea of how the plan one was going to go, but got stuck when a piece of the puzzle did not fall into place. Me and my stubborn – OK, strong willed self, was determined to have it go my way. In doing so, I wasted a day in the process. My ultimate resolve was a literal ‘work-around’, and so far, so good.

I had to decide that it was OK to change my mind and get to my goal in another way which wound up being just as effective.

Hopefully I am learning how to be more flexible, faster.

Here is today’s “Kinyofu’s Thought of The Day“:

You can now stop waiting and move forward as if you had everything you needed. Chances are you are only thing you are waiting for.

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Challenges

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My life has proven to me that hiding doesn’t solve anything. Believe me I have tried. Facing challenges doesn’t sound easy either, but in reality once you face what needs to be faced, then you can move on with another emotional growth spurt.

My life has also proven to me that whatever I imagine as my challenge is usually a fraction of what it is in reality, which means that I spend a whole lot of time avoiding something because I thought it was going to be much worse that it was.

I keep reminding myself of that. Everyday. Old habits are old habits. I am choosing to create new habits – habits that don’t require me to hide.

Here is today’s “Kinyofu’s Thought of The Day“:

Avoiding your challenges won’t get them to disappear. Embrace them instead and watch them get smaller.

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